I would say there are a few types of dreaded calls from school.
- Your child is sick
- Your child is hurt
- Your child was bitten
- Your child got in trouble
We were in Rhode Island, and my son was thriving. He was on the boys’ gymnastics team and his teachers gave stellar reports at our conference meeting. They told me that he is a kind boy, that he considerate of others and likes to make sure everyone is involved, and that he is doing well with his lessons. He even told me, “Mom, John has to go to the office all of the time. Can you believe that? I can’t imagine not listening to my teacher.”
Now, in the present, he is the boy not listening to his teacher. He gets angry and doesn’t know how to calm himself down. So what happened, I wonder? Well, we moved over 5,000 miles for one.
- Avoid Moving During the School Year I think when they start out in the middle of the year, they feel like the new kid longer. Everyone else has already had a chance to acclimate with each other. Now, in the military life, this just might not be possible. Which brings me to #2.
- Contact Teacher Beforehand I thought I was doing everything right. I called the school to let them know exactly which day my boys would be starting. I made some assumptions in doing this. I assumed, they would have told the kids in the class. I assumed, the teachers would be welcoming them. I assumed wrong. I dropped of my oldest son and the teachers looked at me like I had 2 heads. Luckily, I knew his teacher’s name so they quickly recovered from their perplexed faces and guided him to his class. I wasn’t worried because he is very good at acclimating into new situations.
- Maintain Extra-Curricular Activities My son LOVES gymnastics. Yes, he is only 6, but he is a daredevil. The day I walked in and found him doing flips from his bunkbed, I realized I had better sign him up so at least he can learn how to do it safely. He got lessons and his teacher thought he should join the team. He went twice a week for two hours and never complained about it. I believe he might be missing this. I thought it would be better to ease into the new environments, but now I’m thinking I should have signed him up right away so that the move wasn’t as drastic for him.
Dropping off my younger son was more of a mess. Not only, did the teachers not know he was coming, they stood there and argued with me about it in front of him. My younger one was my preemie. He is much more apprehensive and reserved. He is nervous about new situations. You see, they had given his “spot” away by mistake. He had no cubby, in fact, there was no room for a new cubby. Oh, we were furious. We did our best to hide it from our youngest though, but he cried when he had to leave. All of this could have been avoided if I had contacted the teacher ahead of time. My girlfriend who also moved from RI at the same time, but to VA, actually met with the teacher and her child before her child was to start class. I highly recommend this.
Any tips you all want to share with me? I desperately need to get my boy back on track.
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